People consistently become more peaceful, friendly, and happy after deep forgiveness. Emotional pain is released. Depression departs. Joy returns. Laughter is found again. And healing can even occur in the body.
It seems that the mind transforms through forgiving. I have found this to be consistently true in my 17 years of work in forgiveness, doing individual and group Forgiveness Therapy and training, and from my own life experiences.
Why forgiveness transforms the mind’s functioning is open to speculation, yet the fact that it does is readily apparent. We can observe that when we let go of bitterness, grudges, and resentments, life energy becomes much more available to us. The amount of life energy that becomes available depends on how much energy we have been putting into holding resentments and bitterness.
People who have completely forgiven all the people and situations in their lives have a much more joyful existence. They get sick less often. In fact, some say they don’t get sick at all as long as they hold no grudges or resentments toward people. Their interactions with others are much more pleasant and productive than they were before their forgiveness transformations.
Naturally, total forgiveness is not an easy state of mind to attain—but the payoff is great. Some have deeply religious experiences after their forgiveness and reconciliation experience and say they have a deeper understanding of life and love. Their relationships with people, in general, get better, and their friendships deepen. They are less stressed and angered by daily personal and world events. They find it easier to get over upsets.
Dr. Jim Dincalci has invested over 15 years in developing a counseling method and training to effectively assist others in having life-transforming experiences through learning how to let go of bitterness, resentments, and grudges.
A person trained in his methods has the knowledge and tools to be much happier and to transform not only her or his life, but also the lives of others.
Get Dr. Dincalci’s book How to Forgive When You Can’t to gain a better life for yourself.